Reality Vs Fiction

I’m 23 years old (in October) and if there’s one thing I have learned after being married for 2 years, it’s that my wife, Ashley, is always right...Wait, that doesn’t match up with my title...OK, it’s that relationships in books and movies are nothing like how they are in real life. So, I’m going to hit four major topics on relationships and we’re going to look at the

 Reality vs. Fiction

The Friend Zone:

Fiction: Hollywood portrays the friend zone as a great place to be for a few reasons. First, you get to see the other person change clothes. You know, how they do, they walk around in their underwear, parading around about being happy in their nudeness. They talk to you about everything, and they always need lots of hugs. Come on, let’s get real, no one hugs that much. Second, the friend zone always becomes awkward because one likes the other but doesn’t think it’s the other way, and there begins the everlasting circle of tension that typically, if not always leads to something sexual (Why has Hollywood focused so much on sex? Because it makes them money, while it ruins kids lives). And lastly, the two get together in the end and live happily ever after (we’ll get to that one later). Did I mention this probably is a PG-13 movie that is not rated R, being fed right to your minor?

Reality: This is a sick way for Hollywood to ruin “friends” relationships. First, you’ll never see them change clothes! They might talk to you about some things (but not what you are hoping). Second, yes you might start to like this person, but is it because you are with them all the time? Or is it because it’s an actual crush/Lust? And lastly, rarely do you get together and if you do it hardly works out because the relationships changes from friends for years to more, and it’s not normal for you. Guys, get this through your head that a girl is not going to randomly wake up one day and say she likes you and wants you, she either liked you from the beginning or she won’t.

The Kiss:

Fiction: Your main goal, according to Hollywood, should be to kiss anyone and everyone you can. There’s slow kissing, energetic kissing, kissing multiple people, and kissing those of the same sex. Movie after movie focuses more and more on these scenes and the heavier action and show that kissing is for everyone.

Reality: Hollywood has destroyed a simple yet meaningful act of affection and turned it into something dirty, perverse, and sexual. They’ve taken kissing and made it the root of the evil, per say. It shows younger and younger kids doing it (to get them while they’re young), same sex doing it (to confuse the world that homosexuality is ok ; NEWSFLASH: it’s not!), and creating a fake world where kissing changes or solves everything. Guys!, get the image and fantasy out of your head, girls don’t really kiss each other all the time and it’s not going to be what you think. And while I have your attention, quit trying to force your girlfriend to kiss you passionately like on TV or movies. Have a real relationship, not one made of kissing and touching.

Sex

Fiction: I’m going to be very careful how I word this section, but Hollywood needs to be exposed on all fronts. Hollywood is on a campaign to take sex and destroy its ties with love. Actors and Actresses “make love” on camera in close to 60% or more of the movies this year, including children’s movies. People want to see sex in movies and on TV, sex sells. They want to see the action and excitement and want to talk about it with their friends. Hollywood figured out the right angles, the right thing to say, and the right amount of skin showing that gets people talking about a movie. They know how much they can get away with in a PG13 movie to get kids in young, and to see the garbage that is produced.

Reality: Sex is not how Hollywood portrays it. If you’re hanging with people that do want to have sex all the time, hang with new people! If you’re sleeping with the person on the first date, that’s sin. Correction: If you sleep with a person AT ALL before you are married to them, that’s sin. And sleeping around with several people isn’t cool either. It destroys future marriages, leads to children, and specifically abuses the possibility of real love in a couple’s life. Love is not found after sex, it’s the other way around.

Happily Ever After

Fiction: There’s a Prince and a Princess, they go through a trial by either dragon, bad guy, or crazy witch, and are later reunited for everything to be great! Or as Hollywood puts it, fall in love in 3 days, move in together after a month, find a great job, and boom you are there! Even their fights look happy in the movies. They show the happy couples running around half naked in their apartments, kissing at every waking moment, and always happy as can be.

Reality: There’s no such thing. Life happens, Christian or not, and in relationships there will be struggles at home, problems at work, and sometimes life will reek. There are great moments too, but it will NEVER be happily ever after. Scripture gives an encouraging and sobering roadmap to a wonderful reality, Matthew 6:33: But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness, and all these things shall be added into you.

This is real life, not a fairy tale, time to wake up!